How To Get Over The Guy You Never Dated

I think we can all agree that catching feelings is messy business, especially for someone who doesn't feel the same. As much as we make ourselves promise that we won't get attached, it's inevitably going to happen but just how do you get over that one person you couldn't call your own? 

 Personally, it's a situation I find myself in time and time again. I either go on a few dates and get ghosted or admire from afar and realise that the guy is completely out of my league. Regardless of the situation, that dreaded feeling lingers. A web of 'what if?' and endless amounts of wondering why I wasn't good enough. 

In recent months, ghosting has been a common occurrence in my dating life and it SUCKS!

I've been on dates with guys and things have gone really well. We've had a second/third date and then they just disappear. They delete from all social media, ignore messages and leave me with a bunch of feelings that I can't shake off. It frustrates me that people think that they can mess with other's feelings because they're unsure about their own.

When it comes to love and dating, I try to protect myself as much as possible. I don't like allowing myself to be vulnerable or taken for a fool but I'll admit, being ghosted is embarrassing. It hurts to know that you weren't on the same page; you thought they felt the same way with all the compliments, flirty banter and the good morning texts but it meant nothing to them. You feel like you were 'almost' good enough and wonder what you did to let them down. 

If this rings any bells then rest assured that you're not alone. After talking to a few of my girlfriends, I've realised it's a common thing for guys to do, yet it feels stupid to have all these feelings for a boy who you never made it official with. I like to refer to this kind of relationship as an 'almost relationship' and sometimes, I think they're the hardest to get over. 

So without anymore waffling from me, here are some things that might help you get over that guy. 

Remember that you're entitled to your feelings

Never feel like you shouldn't be sad because the relationship wasn't official. It's okay to cry and feel emotional, in fact, I guarantee that you'll feel better after a little rant to your girlfriends. 

Practice self-love

Remember that you are the most important person in this situation. Treat yourself how you deserve to be treated. Watch all the romantic comedies and Disney movies that your heart desires - it's nice to see romance go right even if your love life isn't working out. 

There's nothing wrong with you

Even though you might think that everything is your fault, it's really not. The fact that someone has messed with your feelings because they're unsure of their own says more about them than it does about you. Keep reminding yourself that you don't need them - you coped without them before and you can cope without them now. 

Switch Playlists

Make a playlist of all the songs that make you feel fierce. I'm talking Beyonce, Ariana, Whitney and Little Mix. There's nothing like a strong female playlist to make you feel like you can take on the world. 

Keep yourself busy

Channel your energy into something creative and occupy your mind. It'll defer from the temptation to check their social media every hour and sinking into the black hole of wondering why things didn't work out the way you wanted them to. 

Delete them from social media

Following on nicely from my last point, deleting the guy from social media always helps. I'm constantly doing this, so take it from someone who knows that checking their Instagram to see if they're in a relationship does not help matters. You need to be rid of them in order to move on. 

Your friends are your lifesavers

Guarantee, they'll be there to pick you up when you feel at your lowest and reassure you that the guy was punching anyway. You can do so much better, trust us! 

Treat Yourself

Knowing that you weren't right for the person that you wanted can really knock your confidence, especially when you don't know the reasoning behind their actions. My advice? Browse ASOS, treat yourself to that dress you've always wanted, go out with the girls and forget that he even existed. 

The final thing is to have faith.

In life, you learn that not everyone is going to like you, people can be horrible and not everyone treats people how they'd like to be treated but the right person will come along. Why waste time crying over a guy when you can be living the single life to the fullest? You'll also learn not to catch feelings when going on dates - if you don't expect things to go right, it'll be a nice surprise when you finally found the guy you've been waiting for.

I'd love to hear if anyone else has found themselves in this situation and what you do to deal with it!

Lots of Love,

Meg

xxx

{Photo by Emma}

Eunoia: 5 Ways to lead a Positive & Happy Lifestyle

Eunoia. What a weird title to a blog post.

I'm presuming some of you are wondering what exactly it means, well, let me tell you. Eunoia means 'beautiful thinking' and I thought it was the perfect title for a blog post all about spring cleaning and working towards a positive lifestyle. My lecturer kept using it constantly in our lecture last week, and it really stuck with me, so gave me inspiration to do this blog post. Also, it's the shortest word in the English Language that uses all the vowels (now there's a snazzy fact for you all). 

It's Spring!!!! Isn't that exciting?! 

Well, not really as exciting as Summer, but it means we're one step closer to pretty summer dresser, pastel colours and late night barbecues in the garden. For most people, including me, Spring is a time to look back at the past few months and just see what things you'd like to change. I call this Spring Cleaning. Now, when most people say that, they presume that you set away one day to just clean the whole house and make it all lovely and neat, just for it to be ruined again. Because I'm probably too lazy to do that, and I like a bit of a messy room anyway, I see this whole Spring Cleaning thing as a way to change your life for the better. 

Last year, I said that I was going to try and be more positive about things, and although we all have our days where we want to hide under our duvet with ice cream and Netflix, it really impacted on my year. I will always say that 2015 was the best year of my life, and apart from all the amazing things that happened, I feel that me trying to stay positive was one of the main ways I managed to have such an amazing year. Being so happy and positive has an effect on you and the way you view things, but also the people around you. And everyone loves to be around a happy smiley person that can see the good in a bad situation; like the sunshine shining through the dark clouds on a rainy day. 

I've seen a lot of people online saying how much they'd like to lead a happy and positive lifestyle; and really it's not that hard. Yeah, I'll admit, it's hard not to see the bad in every situation but I guess you just have to take a step back and look at the situation from a different point-of-view. So, without anymore rambling, here are 5 simple ways to help you with a positive and happy lifestyle. 

1. Set an alarm and wake up

Okay, I understand that this might be hard. I mean, sometimes we all have days where we want to just lay in bed and watch films all day, and that's completely fine, as long as you're awake and doing what you want to do. If you set an alarm in the morning, and start to wake up at the same time most days, it really has an impact on your body. You're not tired all the time, and waking up early means you have the full day ahead of you. Imagine all the adventures you can go on and things you can do. It's better to wake up and do something you love than just stay in bed and sleep all day. Also, when I say set an alarm, make it reasonable. Don't go setting it for like 5am in the morning and then moan. I have my alarm on every day for 9am. 

2. Exercise and stay healthy

Again, not up some peoples street, but just going for a nice walk in the sun is still classed as exercise. I've recently started running and going to the gym (I know, but it's time I get myself into shape), and I find that doing exercise, especially in the morning helps to clear my mind and think about the things that are bothering me. I also really love hula-hooping. I mean who doesn't love a hula-hoop. Exercise doesn't have to be going to the gym and spending hours doing weights (I don't do that, I literally go on the running machine and exercise bike) it can be fun too. Drinking water also helps and eating more fruit. If you feel your body is fit and healthy, it helps you feel positive and happy. 

3. Get away from social media for a while

Most of us are addicted to technology, whether that be our phones, ipods or laptops. I'm one of those people too, I don't think you'll ever see me without my phone in my hand. But, looking back at things, spending too much time on social media was making me upset, sometimes angry and impacting on my life in a negative way. Now, when things start to upset me, I step away from social media and technology for a while, and do the things that really matter to me. Don't keep people or things in your life that make you unhappy. The sooner you get rid of all the negative energy in your life, the happier and more positive you'll be.

4. Set aside time to do the things you love

I can't begin to stress how important this is. Don't live your life for other people and don't let other people dictate your happiness. If your happiness is staying inside and watching a whole series on Netflix whilst dunking digestive biscuits into Nutella, then don't let anyone stop you. Just make time to do the things you love and don't let the stress of work or school get you down. The way I view things; everything happens for a reason, and this time next year, the things you're worrying about now wont even matter, so just enjoy today. 

5. Try not to see the negative in everything

This is hard. Very hard. But if you can do it then it will honestly be one of the best things you do. When you go in for an exam don't be going in saying "I'm going to fail" instead give yourself some hope and believe in yourself. Wake up each morning with a smile. Try smiling at more people, because you smiling at them and them smiling at you will make you both feel so much happier. Don't let negative energy affect your mind. 

That's just five of the many ways I try to lead a positive and happy lifestyle. I think the main thing is not to let anyone drag you down. Never let anyone dull your sparkle. 

Think Happy.

Be Happy.

Lots of Love

Meg

xox

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Which University should you choose?

It's coming up to that time of year again. By now, your UCAS Applications should have been completed and sent off and you'll be waiting for offers from your chosen Universities. However, which University do you choose? 

It's one of the hardest decisions you'll ever have to make, and also one of the most important. You want to choose somewhere where you are going to thrive and grow as a person. Where you feel safe, happy and will want to spend the next three or four years of your life. 

The best thing to do is to go and visit the University for their open days. This is the one thing that will help you ultimately decided which University you will be starting at in August. When you go to these open days, you get a feel for the University, talk to the lecturers of your chosen course and look around the student accommodation. The best open days to go too are held in the term time because you get a real feel for the University and the City you will be living in. You probably won't believe me when I say this to you, but as soon as you enter the University, you'll know straight away if it's somewhere you want to be. If you don't feel comfortable then don't even consider it. You want to feel safe and happy. 

Another thing to consider is if you want to live away from home. If you are 100% sure that you don't want to move away and live in student accommodation, then don't choose a University that's a six hour drive away from where you live. The reason I chose Liverpool is because it was far enough from home that I could live away, but close enough to home that I could get home if I needed too. If you're querying about moving away, my advice is to just go for it. When you arrive, every single person is in the same boat, but you'll form such a close bond with your flat mates and you'll meet so many new people. Also, you find that you become much more independent as a person, you have a lot more freedom and it's a nice thing to have responsibility. When you go home and see your parents, you'll also discover that there will be less arguments, because you spend more time catching up on all the gossip you've missed whilst you have been away. 

It's not just the University you choose that you need to be comfortable with, you need to be content with your surroundings. If you don't feel safe in the city you will be living in, then please don't go and study there because I can guarantee that you won't enjoy your experience. Do you hate cities? No problem, there are plenty of Universities in little towns such as Bangor and Crewe. Make sure you've considered all of your options. Don't just jump in and make an instant decision. Some Uni's don't turn out the way you want them to be. Make sure that you feel inspired, especially if you're doing  a creative course. 

Once you've received all of your University offers, I would recommend, if you can, going looking at the University you are thinking of choosing as your firm choice one more time to make sure that it's definitely right for you. Sometimes, you can change your mind, but that's okay, as long as you're going to be happy. 

Finally, the last thing is the grades, or points, you'll need to get into the University. Make sure you have a safety net to fall back on if exams don't go your way. If you're only predicted to get B's or C's don't choose two A* Universities as your final choices, you need something you can fall back on, and you don't want to be disappointed on results day. Also remember that there's always clearing, so if you don't get the grades, there's still a chance you'll get in. 

All I can say to you now is that you need to follow your dreams, and do what you love. Do not let anyone force you into going to a Uni or doing a course that you don't want to do; make sure that you are doing what you want to do. Make sure that you work hard for your exams, all the hard work pays off in the end I promise! :)

Good Luck!

 Lots of Love,

Meg

xox

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Acceptance and Happiness

Hello Everyone!

Recently, I've found myself worrying about what other people think about me. I'm aware that everyone does this, of course if someone walks past you and starts laughing, you assume they're laughing at you don't you? With this worry has brought a lot of self consciousness and a lot of unhappiness with myself. I seemed to be hating myself for things such as my acne, my weight, my personality, the way I dressed. These are things that I thought I had come to terms with previously. 

Not wanting to bother anyone, I didn't really speak about it, I just thought it was a phase that would pass and then I'd be back to my happy little self again. A few nights ago, I received a phone call from a very close friend of mine; she was feeling upset and needed someone to talk too. When she told me what was wrong, she seemed to explain the exact way I was feeling. I got off the phone from her after giving her some advice and cheering her up, and I thought "Why don't you just take your own advice?"

Just because you have some blemishes on your skin, or even if you suffer from acne like I do, it really doesn't define you as a person. In fact, it just adds to who you are. It's a little piece of you, and without it, you wouldn't be you. The little imperfections on your face don't change you as a person, they don't change your personality and if people judge you just because of it then they're not worth having in your life anyway are they? Just think, you're not the only person waking up in the morning looking in the mirror, with skin that you think looks as bumpy as Mount Everest. There'll be thousands of others doing the same thing. Remember that your skin DOES NOT define you! 

Weight. It's a thing so many people have insecurities about. Instead of wishing you had the figure of someone else or trying to make your body model material, embrace what you have. I'm pretty sure there's people who look at you and wish they had your figure. Never be embarrassed of what size you are, because that's how you were made and without it, you wouldn't look like you. Be unique and embrace what you've got instead of trying to change it.

The clothes you wear can really define the type of person you are, and it's a really good way of expressing yourself. Recently, I got to a point where I was being invited to parties and having to go out and buy new outfits because I'd already worn certain things to certain events and there were photos of me in the outfit online. Now, I really couldn't care less. I paid good money for that outfit, and I paid the money to wear it. People don't look at what you're wearing, unless you're dressed like a clown, then maybe they might just have a little peek. If people judge you for the things you wear; they're obviously immature and you really need to get them out of your life. 

What I'm trying to say, is that your imperfections really don't define you. Just because your skin may not look right doesn't mean that you're any less beautiful. Just because you may have a little more weight on your body doesn't mean that you can't still look fabulous. Just because you don't dress like others think you should dress doesn't affect your personality; if you're comfy, screw everyone else! Don't let anyone dull your sparkle. The less you care, the happier you'll be, I promise!

I hope this gives you a little bit of positivity and hope!

Lots of Love

Meg
xox

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Reflection on 2015: My Year So Far...

Hello!

I've been having a bit of what I like to call 'Bloggers Block' lately where I have been really struggling to think of things to write. I feel like there's going to be a lot of Disney in the next few posts, so I thought it might be good to write about something different to split things up a little bit. 

As you're reading this right now, it's the end of July, and I am currently away on my family holiday (don't worry, there'll be a blog post coming out about that very soon). This means that it's way over half way through the year and I cannot even begin to put together how much has happened over these past six months. 

At the start of the year, I did a blog post called '2014 Highlights and my hopes for 2015' which I will link here. In that post, I reflected on the past year (which I will be doing in January 2016) and made a list of the things I hope to achieve in 2015. As I was having a little browse through my old blog posts, I came across this post and it dawned on me how many of those wishes have come true in just six months. This then inspired me to do this blog post. 

Okay, so the first thing for me that has been a massive deal was being cast as Frenchy in Grease: The Musical. It was my last year in the school production and since being young, Frenchy has always been my favourite character so to be able to play her was a dream come true. I've also been accepted into my dream University, after doing so many auditions and call-backs which is something that was in my wildest dreams. If you would have asked me this time last year if I was going to be accepted into University, I would've laughed at you and told you to be more realistic. It just shows that if you work at something, your dreams really can come true. 

Another highlight for me was turning 18 and entering adulthood. It was a weird feeling at first, knowing that you're responsible for yourself now and no longer need to rely on your parents. But, I'm absolutely loving it. I love the feeling of independence, I've never felt more grown up and in control of my own life. In my hopes and dreams blog post, I said that I wanted to go to Disney and meet Peter Pan. Now, when I published this post, the holiday hadn't been booked and I had no intentions of going in June. But it just shows that life can take a funny turn and look where I have just returned from; the happiest place on earth! AND I met Peter too which is always always a bonus. 

Finally, one big thing for me was to stay positive and spread happiness by being happy. I'm proud to say that this is going well and I am definitely a more happy and positive person. I have deleted the people who brought negativity in my life, I have the best group of friends imaginable and my life just seems to be going well at the moment. If you're not happy about something, then change it. You only get one shot at life, and if you want to spend it surrounded by negativity and unhappiness then that's your choice, but I'm pretty damn sure that a life full of happiness and smiles is hell of a lot better. 

So, that's my little reflection. I know so much more has already happened, and so much more is yet to happen. I have so many exciting things ahead, most of which will be shared on here with everyone. I cannot wait for the rest of the year! 

Lots of Love
Meg
xox
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Top 10 Tips for a Disneyland Paris Holiday

Hello!

Yep, it's another Disney post again!

Today, I wanted to write about some of the things that we did in order to prepare for our holiday to Disneyland Paris and also some of the advice that I would give you in order to make the holiday as fabulous as possible. Whether you'll be going with the kids or on your own, these tips are so important and I would really recommend to take them on board. If you have any questions about our trip, don't hesitate to ask me in the comments below!
Here we go!

1) Take full advantage of Extra Magic Hours

If you're staying in one of the main Disney hotels, they offer a thing called 'Extra Magic Hours'. This means that the park opens two hours early, at 8am, for guests staying in these hotels. I know 8am is early but these two hours are so important if you want to get on some of the biggest attractions and meet characters. The main characters (Mickey, Pluto, Goofy, Minnie, Donald etc) gather around Main Street to meet guests and the main attractions in Fantasyland are open with only 5 minute queues. If you do these rides in the morning, you won't get stuck in the massive waits that follow later on in the day. Extra Magic Hours are also the perfect time to start queueing up for a reservation ticket for the Princess Pavilion. 

2) Early Breakfast

Make sure that you have an early breakfast. I would recommend to go down for breakfast between 7 and 7:30am because after that it gets bombarded with kids, you have to wait in a queue for a table and the food goes quite quickly. Make things less stressful for yourself. 

3) Be nice and polite to the characters
My next blog post is going to be on how to meet characters in Disneyland Paris, but for now, I cannot stress how important it is to be nice to the characters. Don't just crowd them and shove your autograph book in their face, wait patiently, speak to them, ask them how their day was. If they are your favourite character, tell them, I promise you they'll absolutely adore you.

4) Book in advance for a character dining experience meal

The character dining experiences are definitely worth it. If you're not familiar with what they are, basically the different characters will come around the tables whilst you're eating for a meet and greet with you and your family. We didn't book in advance for our character experience meal and sadly we were unable to get in. If you're 100% sure that you want to do one then book online when you book the holiday or book as soon as you arrive at the hotel. Whatever you do, do not leave it until the last minute.

5) Do some of the bigger rides at night

We watched Disney Dreams on our first and last nights in the Disney Park which meant that the other nights, we did a lot of the rides. People start getting their places for Disney Dreams at about 8-9pm which means that the ride queues get shorter. I would personally recommend going on Thunder Mountain on a night, it's so much fun!

6) Take a Water Bottle
Once you're in the Disney park, they really do have you captive. Drinks are so expensive so my recommendation is to take a water bottle and keep re-filling it with water from the water taps that are placed around the park. That way you're saving quite a bit of money. The water taps tend to be near the toilets, near some of the biggest attractions and at the front of the parks.

7) Do Stars in their Cars
Stars in their Cars is one of the best character meet and greets there is. It's classed as a parade but it is definitely more of a meet and greet. Everyday, different characters ride around the Disney Studios in their cars and as the crowd congregates in a circle, they go around, take selfies and sign autographs. It's such a good time to meet characters that you wouldn't normally see walking around the park so definitely take advantage of that.

8) Use the Fastpass service/Single rider queues
At most of the main attractions they offer a fastpass service which allows you to get a little ticket with an allocated time slot. When you go back at the time given, you get on the ride a lot quicker which makes the experience a lot less stressful. Also, the single rider queues are a god send if you're willing to ride on your own or with another family. For example, if it is a four seater ride, and a family of three have taken up one slot, you would take the extra seat. The queues for this are so small which means you get on the ride a lot quicker and most of the time, you still end up with your friends anyway.

9) Go for evening meals either extra early or later on in the night
Now it depends what you want to do. For evening meal, if you're only half board like we were, I would recommend going for your evening meal whilst the afternoon parade is on or at about 7:30-8pm. The restaurants are very quiet at this time and you get in really quickly!

10) Disney Photopass
Finally, the Disney Photopass is the last thing that I would really recommend taking advantage of. Before we went on the holiday, we heard a lot of bad reviews about this, but we were convinced to do it and it was honestly one of the best things we did. We had no problems at all with it. When you meet one of the main characters, there tends to be a professional photographer with them. They will take professional photos for you, and if you have a photopass, they will put them on the pass for you so that you can access all the photos taken at home for 365 days. It was the best thing we purchased and the photos were of such high quality. Definitely think about getting one because they are completely worth it!

I hope that's helped some people if you're planning a trip to Disney soon!
Lots of Love
Meg
xox

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